Let’s cut right to the chase. The answer: The most important mistake you’re making when you fight with your family member is… …being lost in your own protective emotions, many of which reliably keep your attention aimed on the other person. You get sucked into...
How can we become more effective communicators with our loved ones? Let’s take a look at an ingredient in communication that often challenges many of the couples and families I see in therapy. We’re talking, of course, about emotional reactivity. Emotional reactivity...
For those who are skeptical about whether or not contemplative practices like meditation are worth it, or if they’ve been verified by empirical research, do read on.I’ve written before on the benefits of meditation practices like Self-Compassion and RAIN; But, I’ve...
Who is Kate Engbert? In 2011, I was lucky enough to be admitted into the Couple and Family Therapy Program at the University of MD at College Park. One of the students who helped interview and select candidates from my eventual cohort was Kate Engbert. She was a...
What is Self-Compassion? Prepare before your journey.Most people I know hold themselves to a higher standard than they hold others. This is pretty normal. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else possibly could. You know all of the ways in which you are...