Refund Policy: All registrations are final. If you are unable to attend, you may transfer to a future training, minus a $50 administrative fee. To obtain a transfer, you must notify at least 30 days prior to the event date. Within 30 days of the seminar, no transfers will be issued. Transfers will expire one year from the date of notification, and are non-transferable.
Washington Ethical Society 7750 16th St NW, Washington, DC 20012
?Agenda for All Seminars
*Infants up to 12 months are welcome to join us in these seminars; However, on-site childcare for toddlers is not provided.
What will each couple receive?
Seminar 1 – January 7th 2016
Part 1: The Transition to Parenthood
Part 2: Children and Parents: A Delicate Relationship
In Seminar 1, couples will learn the physical, psychological, and relationship challenges that are common during the transition to parenthood. Parents benefit from learning about the ‘new normal’ of parenthood as it helps them prepare and have realistic expectations. Couples also learn about The Sound Relationship House Theory, (this is the theory upon which the entire BBH curriculum is built!) which explores the seven aspects of your relationship that, if maintained properly, help to prevent new parents from ending up being among the 67% of couples who are dissatisfied in their relationship after baby arrives.
Couples will learn the four warning signs of relationship meltdown, and how to manage and solve problems in the couple relationship. This is critical to understand because the warning signs that exist in the couples’ relationship also appear in the parent-child relationships. This seminar also helps educate couples on identifying and understanding Baby Blues and Postpartum Mood Disorders. We explore how depression affects the baby, including long term child outcomes of parental depression. Because the research shows how important the early years of life are for developing and establishing the parenting relationship, new parents will learn ways to connect with their children by learning about attachment, temperament, and self regulation.
Couples will also learn how to turn towards one another and build their relationships’ Emotional Bank Account. One of the greatest challenges when a baby arrives is for partners to move from “Me” to “We”. Couples will be taught how to recognize and respond to “bids for connection” in one another, and learn to recognize how baby bids for his/her parent’s attention and affection. New Parents will sharpen their skills at recognizing the six states of infant consciousness as well as watch the film, “What’s Baby Saying”. Parents will learn to recognize what their baby is saying (ex: body language signals that your baby may be overstimulated), and how to respond and help baby repair overstimulation. Of course you’ll also learn to recognize signals of when s/he is ready to interact with you again!
Seminar 2 – January 14th 2016
Part 1: Making the Magic Last After Having Children
Part 2: Managing Stress and Conflict Regulation
How can you build ROMANCE, PASSION, and GOOD SEX after having a baby? Do read on.
Let’s face it, when a newborn enters the family, the inevitable sleep deprivation can increase stress and irritability in the household. Relationship conflict tends to increase in the first year after having baby. Combine this with the fact that most new parents find that resuming sexual activity is difficult after the birth of a baby as a natural result of the stressors of parenting and a reduction in sex drive. Because sex and intimacy typically decline dramatically, many couples avoid discussing the issue and as a result, they worry about the quality of their relationship. In Seminar 2, couples will learn how to make sex a priority, to appreciate the importance of rituals of connection and non-sexual affection, as well as nurture the sex and romance in their relationship. Couples who finish Seminar 2 will have a plan for intimacy!
Now then, the basis for romance and having good sex in relationships is first establishing and maintaining EMOTIONAL connection. By registering for this seminar, new parents will learn about the forces that sever this emotional connection, The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling, and Contempt, and how to identify and repair these from damaging the relationship. Couples learn how to strengthen their friendship through sharing fondness and admiration for one another. New parents will develop their own Daily Stress Reducing Conversation, in addition to learning and practicing four essential tools for managing conflict:
- Softened Start-Up – The method used to raise a conflict issue
- Accepting Influence – The importance of understanding your partner’s feelings and the meaning of their position on an issue
- Repairing the Interaction – How to cool down a difficult, escalated argument
- Compromise – How to reach resolution on an issue
?This is a seminar you DO NOT want to miss out on!
Seminar 3 – January 21st 2016
Part 1: Emotional Communication and Children
Part 2: Creating a Shared Family Legacy
Here is where we get to the good stuff! Crying babies and toddlers who are starting to assert their independence can make any parent feel frustrated or overwhelmed. Feeling “flooded” by your child from time to time is NORMAL. Seminar 3 teaches couples to recognize how the body responds to stress, and learn to self-sooth. Parents will also be better able to understand how exactly their fighting affects their children. As a father myself, I love teaching this seminar because I am passionate about getting the word out on the importance of fathers, not only what the research says about dad’s involvement on your child’s social, emotional, and cognitive development, but also how dad’s involvement impacts the couple relationship.
?Seminar 3 allows couples to go deeper into the foundation of their Sound Relationship House with Love Maps – the exercise that allows you to learn about one another’s world through laughter and gentle fun.
Love Maps Questions for Knowing Each Other include:
“Where was your partner’s favorite place to visit as a child?”
“What is your partner’s favorite way to relax?”
“What makes your partner sad? What is he or she currently experiencing that might be upsetting?”
?For couples who already have children, more child-specific questions will be explored such as:
“At what age does you partner think a child should begin doing chores?”
“How does your partner feel about circumcision?”
“How many children does your partner want?” ?