Mindfulness is the practice of self-observation. When glance at the phenomena of consciousness, the thoughts, sights, sounds, and other body sensations that are experienced within us, we are neurologically disengaging automatic pathways that would otherwise disrupt our present moment input. Have you ever been lost in thought? Yea, that’s the stuff I’m talking about here. When we are mindful, we are no longer lost in thought, but rather clearly aware of any present sensations that arise in consciousness. And this way of thinking helps us to be less emotionally reactive, and respond to negative situations with a faster recovery to our baseline calm state of being.
Regular mindfulness practice (*after just 8 weeks) can alter the ways in which emotions are processed in the brain. Many mindfulness practitioners have quite literally changed the neural architecture of their brains, and this allows them to cope with stress in more adaptive ways. As a marriage and family therapist, this is particularly evident to me with the couples I treat in therapy. Relationship stress is simply a subcategory of overall stress. Couples who practice mindfulness have a higher ability to identify their emotions and communicate them to their partner in more functional ways that de-escalate conflict. These couples are simply less angry and less anxious.
*Premed and med students reported less anxiety and depression symptoms after taking an 8-week mindfulness based stress reduction training compared to the control group.