Let’s cut right to the chase. The answer: The most important mistake you’re making when you fight with your family member is… …being lost in your own protective emotions, many of which reliably keep your attention aimed on the other person. You get sucked into...
Taking a 16 Hour Internal Family Systems Training Changed Everything I’ve written before on the blog about Recognizing the Importance of Self-Talk, but nothing comes close to what you’re about to learn. I wasn’t prepared for it either. I signed up for a 16 hour...
How can we become more effective communicators with our loved ones? Let’s take a look at an ingredient in communication that often challenges many of the couples and families I see in therapy. We’re talking, of course, about emotional reactivity. Emotional reactivity...
For those who are skeptical about whether or not contemplative practices like meditation are worth it, or if they’ve been verified by empirical research, do read on.I’ve written before on the benefits of meditation practices like Self-Compassion and RAIN; But, I’ve...
Who is Ifeanyi Olele? I'm a Nigerian American. I was raised in southern California; I attended UCLA as a psychobiology major. I'm also a member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Inc. And after my time at UCLA I attended Hampton University where I got my Masters in Medical...
